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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
taliaal-xuffasch
huefaced

I think one of the hardest struggles of adhd for me is the lack of automaticity. Neurotypical people seem to be able to do things automatically. For them, get dressed consists of one step--get dressed.

But with adhd, it's hard to do things automatically because your brain is elsewhere, both consciously and subconsciously. "Getting dressed" isn't just one step, it's many. It's getting up, going to the closet, opening the closet, throwing the clothes on the bed, changing, put old clothes in the hamper, etc. etc.

And your brain can stop paying attention at any one of those steps. If you're not careful when you get up, you might go to the kitchen instead of the closet. If you're not paying attention, you might forget to put the old clothes in the hamper.

I think this is one of the reasons that compensating for unmedicated adhd is HIGHLY energy consuming. With anything you do, there are a million little micro steps where you can get derailed. I think this is why anxiety is often comorbid with adhd: it's one of the only conditions that forces you to always, always stress about what step you fucked up on.

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shirtsthatgohard

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vicshush

[ID: A photo of a white t-shirt [design by Arcane Bullshit, per the notes]. Against a green background of grass, hills, trees, and cattails, dark grayscale birds (including some kind of wading bird), dragonflies, and turtles are arrayed. Large black text reads "The only bank I trust is" across the top and "the riverbank" across the bottom. Smaller black text underneath 'riverbank' reads "I gave all my money to a turtle! It just swam away." /end ID]

strange-aeons
amtrak-official

If you are taking the car to Chicago, can you even call yourself a feminist. There are Women on that train who want to have gay sex with you but can't because you are taking a fucking car to Chicago

amtrak-official

Right now there is a very buff Butch woman all alone in the Cafe car and she could be having steamy gay sex with you and be moving into your apartment if you were just willing to take the train to Chicago

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I'm busy trying to get more lesbians to ride the train instead of taking their Subarus to Chicago

amtrak-official

This was probably my best post of the year, enjoy it once again

spacelazarwolf
snafu-of-lesbos

young me especially would have hated hearing this but networking is literally the most important thing you can do to improve your situation like forget economic barriers to education etc just keep making friends with different people and eventually someone will offer you a hand up just because they dig your vibe and that is exactly all that's happening when undeserving people surpass you anyway

neil-gaiman

When I look at how I survived my 20s, it was always helpful friends putting work my way. And often the helpful friends were people I had only known for weeks.

dogesterone

schools love to go on and on about networking but they do a shit job of teaching you how to do it.

networking isnt going to job fairs and accumulating a collection of business cards and having a good linkedin profile

networking is meeting someone on a dating app and even though you never get the chance to meet up irl you talk a bit on discord and they offer to help you job hunt because they have good technical writing skills and they really think youre cool

networking is meeting someone at a sports event and becoming friends and when you need a new place to live they already have a friend of theirs who just so happens to be looking for a new roommate

networking is joining a club and making really good friends with older members who just also happen to be good professional connections

"networking" is a term so poisoned and sanitized by capitalism that what it actually really is has been obscured in the minds of most people

spacelazarwolf

networking is also relying on existing community to take care of you. so many of the forms of mutual aid i’ve gotten has been from queer/trans and jewish groups. jewish family services paid a month of my rent and helped me find a new job. a local trans org brought groceries to my house when i had covid and couldn’t afford delivery.

and like yeah i also mean individuals, but seriously there are so many organizations with funds specifically dedicated to community mutual aid that is there specifically for people like you who need it.

pangur-and-grim
heedra

if you learn to love bugs with all your heart the world will feel half as hostile and a thousand times as big

heedra

There's a sentiment I'm noticing in the tags that I'd like to address. I don't think learning to love bugs with all your heart means forcing yourself out of discomfort you have with them overnight. It's about observing a different sort of being going about its life and deliberately trying to reframe your observations through a sense of wonder and delight. It's about cultivating a positive interest and curiosity for their ecology and behaviors. It's especially about trying to uncouple the value we find in them from how 'convenient' they are to us; to face head on the part of us that wants to assign moral evil to another organism who just happens to live life in a way that is not harmonious with ours. You can love insects in this way and still recognize your own health and safety needs. We are animals living side by side within a biosphere. This is how it is, sometimes.

I think this is important to cultivate because, if you are alive at all, you are coming into conflict with countless other people and things that don't owe you an apology for their existence and needs. If you are alive at all, you are encountering countless other people and things that harmful bias and personal discomfort have made repulsive to you. This is about bugs, but its also about way more than bugs.

transmechanicus
krudman

Starfield really is just "More = Better: The game" and feels like Todd Howard's love song to what the marketing department felt like made their previous games successful rather than the talent that made something good despite Todd's best efforts.

Starfield 2, if/whenever that happens, will fully be on the AI train because Todd is a moron who thinks bad content is better than good content so long as there's a lot more of it.

krudman

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lmao

el-tlatoani-de-barrio

does anyone have that one michael kirkbride story where he tricked todd into accepting his wierder designs by showing todd much more fucked up designs alongside the ones he actually wanted and it worked every time?

krudman

EXCUSE ME??? PLEASE

wordbending

Morrowind: An oral history
‘Here’s a world. Go play it how you wanna play it’
Polygon
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I used to have this thing with Todd, because he was one of the ones that’s like, “Let’s not make it too weird.” So I’d bamboozle him. There was a period where I would actually draw two different versions of a monster — the one that was weird and that I wanted to be in the game, and then one that was fucking crazy. And so I’d go to Todd, and I’m like, “OK, I think I’ve got the mid-level creature set.” And I’d show him a picture. He’d be like, “Nah, dude, that’s crazy.” Then I’d go back to my office and I would act like I was drawing something new, and I’d just come back with the original drawing of what I really wanted to be in there. Like, “Hey, is this what you were thinking?” And he’d be all, “Oh, yeah, that’s much better. That’s great.”